Unconscious Mating

The Catholic Church recognizes at least three different saints named Valentine or Valentinus, all of whom were martyred. One legend says Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II outlawed marriage for young, single men – Valentine defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When his actions were discovered, Claudius had him put to death. Other stories suggest that Valentine may have been killed for attempting to help Christians escape harsh Roman prisons where they were often beaten and tortured. In another legend, Valentine actually sent the first ‘valentine’ when in prison he reportedly fell in love with a young girl who may have been his jailor’s daughter. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed ‘From your Valentine.’ So St. Valentine was probably someone who took a stand to love others, even in the worst conditions, whether it was to help them find love or to declare it himself. So often singles feel sorry for themselves on Valentine’s Day and they think endlessly about what they currently don’t have, especially love. Why not be like St. Valentine and spread love even in the most challenging of times? Here are some ideas about how:

 • Think of someone who is experiencing something unfair and bring them love in some way (examples include visiting the elderly, homeless, battered wives, home bound children etc.)

 • Fix up a single friend who is lonely. According to Quantum Physics, ‘If you want something, give it away!’

• Give a Valentine saying that you love someone (even if you won’t hear from them ever again). Don’t expect a response. Do it from a place of unconditional love.

• Take a risk in the name of love-whether it means asking someone out, asking forgiveness or giving someone who has disappointed you another chance.

 • Find a loving couple that you can support. Instead of feeling jealous, let them know how they inspire you and offer to support their love by babysitting or helping out in some way. Look around you and I’m sure you’ll discover your own way to be like St. Valentine. This year, Valentine’s Day can be about more than getting flowers, chocolates or having some cute date on your arm. Love someone else. Because according to Quantum Physics (and perhaps even St.Valentine’s legacy) the more you are Love, the more you’ll attract it!

Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman wrote, ‘Dating From The Inside-Out: Using The Law of Attraction in Matters of the Heart,’ published by Atria Books in February 19, 2008. Dr. Sherman is the Director of ‘My Dating School, www.mydatingschool.com which offers classes in dating issues & coaching, hosts an online singles community and offers a free monthly dating e-newsletter. She is a dating expert on television and radio, a Licensed Psychologist, a certified coach and an ordained minister, able to marry the singles that she coaches in most states. She speaks monthly on dating at the Learning Annex. Her mission is to inspire and enlighten transformative relationships.

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