Breaking the Ice

Dear Dr. Paulette,

What is the best way to break the ice during an initial meeting? Even though there are many opportunities to meet men, I tend to get very nervous and prefer to walk away.

Thanks,
Gun Shy

Dear Gun Shy,
What you need is a little straight-shooting. Smile. Be yourself. Be open to what you may learn from someone instead of worrying about what to say. At worst, you will remain single. At best, you’ve made a friend or scored a date! Good topics are anything to do with the situation you are both in (books in the bookstore, the food at the party etc). If someone likes you they want a show of interest & warmth. They won’t judge your every word. So lighten up & show that you are fun, interested and authentic. Nature will do the rest!

My Best in Love,
Paulette.

Dr. Sherman is the author of, ‘Dating From The Inside-Out: Using The Law of Attraction in Matters of the Heart,’ being published by Atria Books in February 2008.  Director of ‘My Dating School’ www.mydatingschool.com in Manhattan, she offers classes in dating issues & coaching.  She is a monthly speaker at The Learning Annex, a dating expert on radio and television shows and has been quoted in publications such as ‘Glamour’ magazine.  Dr. Sherman is a Licensed Psychologist and a certified empowerment coach, specializing in helping clients date successfully, while facilitating insight.