3 Steps to Maximize Your Dating Journey

By: Dr. Paulette Sherman

Think about your self as a car. You maintain a car’s integrity to maximize its’ efficiency.

#1- Eliminate Energy Drains

In a car you make major repairs so the gas won’t leak out. You may be dating up a storm but if you don’t identify your energy drains you won’t get very far. Think about where you leak energy in dating. Here are some possibilities:

Your Early Models of Love- You have a negative model of marriage and relationships.Your Attitude- You have decided women are horrible creatures whom you will tolerate.Self-Worth- You feel no one is interested in you and you’ve got a list to prove it. Now imagine having a great date with all of these toxic beliefs and emotions surrounding you. If you don’t address them, will you really let the goddess across from you in? #2 Add Positive Energy to Your Dating Life After you have fixed major holes in your dating vehicle, fill it with gas and fluids for maximum performance.

Confidence- Make a list of all the ways that you are a great catch.

Fun & Passion- Fill your life with activities you love.

Intention- Create a positive vision for a relationship & imagine how it will benefit you both. #3- Create a Roadmap & Get Going Now you are ready to approach your destination. Always enjoy the ride! Clarify What You Want- Clearly describe what you want in a partner so you will recognize it when you get there.Determine Your Resources- Think about what might help, like a dating service or singles event directory.Get a Dating Coach- Just as some people like a tour guide, a coach will help you zero in on what you want and obtain it with direction and expertise. To contact Dr. Sherman for coaching, go to her website at www.mydatingschool.com or email her at kpaulet@verizon.net.

This article was written by Dr. Paulette Sherman is a licensed psychologist and certified Empowerment Coach, specializing in dating. She is called, ‘Dr. Date’ and is the Director and Founder of ‘My Dating
School’ in
Manhattan, which offers coaching and classes in dating at www.mydatingschool.com. She is author to the upcoming book, ‘Dating From the Inside-Out: Using the Law of Attraction in Matters of the Heart’ which will be published by Atria Books in February 2008.